What did I learn this month?
This month, I learned one really big, hard lesson…That sometimes doing nice things, although meaning well, can come back and slap you silly up one side and down the other.
Simple. It involves change, and people; even the so-called flexible types; do not fair well with change.
Change makes people nervous because it leaves you temporarily vulnerable. For some, any amount of helplessness or exposure is too much. It causes stress, which leads to a bounty of other problems. The elderly find it especially hard, but I think for decidedly other reasons. Once you have lived a good, long, length of time, you have seen your share of failed changes and are wary of them. Time makes them comfortable with doing things a certain way. Disruption causes delays. Delays are lost time. And when you are countingyour days left on this earth, it can be a horrible reminder of how short life really is.
Ever the optimist, I forged on and made major changes this month to save money, save time, protect my sanity, and save my day job. In exchange, I upset the lives of numerous people I care about, suffer from a lack of sleep because I haven’t been to bed before midnight in the last three weeks, gained five pounds from stress eating, and could have lost my day job.
Of course there were some other variables (Oooh! I can’t stand that word!).
Some of the situations that arose were due to third partyinterference of people making judgment calls without getting the facts…causing a change of another sort. But that’s a subject for another time and another blog…Or…perhaps, a chapter in one of my books when I need a toss-away, meddlesome, up-to-no-good, busy-body that needs chopping up.
But change is a chance. A gamble. A possibility. It could be the blind alley you turn down and chance getting mugged, or the piece of the puzzle you were missing that makes the picture beautifully complete. Either way, we grow with change, and learn what we are truly made of…